In Sunday's post I said that I was reading a book titled, "Ruth Bell Graham: Celebrating an Extraordinary Life" compiled by Stephen Griffith. In Chapter 6 there was a portion of an interview with Ruth, where she discussed praying for her children. She was reading John 17, and using it as a guide for prayer for them. She stated:
"The verse that really hit me between the eyes was the nineteenth, where Jesus says, "For their sake I consecrate myself, that they also may be truly consecrated."
She continued, " If our Lord needed to pray that prayer, how much more do we parents for our children's sake? We can't expect them to be truly committed if we aren't. This is where so many of us fall flat on our faces. We're great at preaching, but we're terribly weak on the practicing part. I think how often I have failed my kids on this. I expected more of them spiritually than I was willing to give myself.The important thing is to be what God wants us to be. If I were the type person God wanted me to be, 90 percent of the problems in the family would be solved." (Ruth Graham, in an interview with Wesley Pippert, from "Ruth Bell Graham: Celebrating and Extraordinary Life" compiled by Stephen Griffith).
OUCH! The Holy Spirit used that passage to convict me! I too am great at preaching to my family, telling them to clean up the sin in their lives. But am I the person God wants me to be? How can I expect MORE of them than I do of myself? And how ineffectual, even if what I am saying to others really needs to be said. Because if I am not the person that God wants me to be, why on earth would anyone listen to what I have to say? That would be like getting financial advice from someone that went bankrupt. Paul said:
"But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: Lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway." (1 Corinthians 9:27)
In other words, if I am not walking the walk, why would anyone listen to me talk the talk? My testimony becomes worthless to them, because it does not ring true. So they simply cast it away.
2009 is a new year, a time for new beginnings. And one of my resolutions for the new year is to focus on becoming the person that God intends for me to be. Asking Him to examine my heart and my life, and to point out all areas of sin, known and unknown. And once pointed out, I am asking Him to conform me into being the person He wants me to be, while I endeavor to submit to His Will for me.
No more expecting more spiritually from others than I do of myself! DLB
